In 1954, a new Viharn building was built at the temple to house the statue. It was moved to its new location on 25 May In the twentieth century in Bangkok Thailand, the government wanted to build a large highway that passed through a village. The highway would cut through a Buddhist monastery, so they decided to move the statue to make way for the high way. The statue is 3 meters (9.8 ft) tall and weighs 5.5 tones
They relocated the monastery together with the heavy clay statue of Buddha. Using the crane they started to move the statue and as they lowered it into its new position, the statue of Buddha started to fall apart. The people were afraid because this was their precious religious symbol to them and the more they tried to fix the statue fell apart. Work was immediately stopped so that an evaluation could be made.
Suddenly the workers stood in amazement as something unexpected happened. The statue was made of gold, underneath. Everyone was perplexed because it was covered by clayey the really made out of golf. Over a day the statue which was worth thousands of dollars is now worth millions.
I got to ask myself a question, why put on a mask Mallvine YET you are meant to shine and to be valuable like Gold?
What is a mask? It is this thing that people like you and me wear to cover up, hide something or hide who we really are. A mask can be a fake smile, clothes so that we fit in. we put on different masks based on different situation we face on our day to day basic.
Why do people wear masks? We put on a fake and a plastic smile so that people do not see what we really feel dip with in our heart, all the pain hurt and anger. You feel guilty and inadequate and worry that someday all those plates you’re spinning will come crashing down on you. You’re an amazing “somebody” who often feels like an invisible and overwhelmed “nobody.” Feeling lost and alone, living in silent despair.
Think of it pretending to be someone else and pretending to cope comes at a cost which is your happiness, your healthy, your resources and time. All this and many more all just pilling on your bill that you will not be able to pay up in your entire life time.
Here are a few tips on how you can slowly remove the mask you are putting on
1. Be honest.
Pretend and, at some point, the problem and the pain will grow ten-fold. If you’re not coping, admit to yourself that you’re not. This shows great strength.
2) Ask for help.
This is not a sign of weakness. Are others weak for coming to you for help? Why should you be different? Do not struggle in silence, tell those who care about you that, you are struggling these can be your friends, family or find a Coach.
3) Talk openly.
When you‘ve asked for help, share your feelings with someone you know and love who will listen without judgment or advice, these can be your mentor’s or coaches . Talking about how you feel and having someone listen can feel self-indulgent at first, but it’s a huge part of the healing process.
4) Learn to say no.
Maybe saying yes to everything and everyone makes you feel superhuman. But superheroes are works of fiction, and you don’t possess special powers. When you say no to other things you are putting value to yourself and respecting your value system
5. Rejoice and reward yourself for your achievements.
If you berate yourself for what you get wrong, then surely you have to take responsibility and take credit when you do something well.
6. Accept that perfection is impossible.
In a world of self-help and personal development, we’re bombarded with advice about always being positive and successful, and striving to be the best. Strive to be the best that you can be, and be a realist. Just like me, you’re imperfect, you’re weak sometimes, you make mistakes, and you’re a work in progress.
Strive to be happy. Accept your weaknesses and you’ll be stronger for it.
7. Make time for you.
You fulfill many roles: parent, partner, businessperson, child, sibling, friend. Don’t lose sight of your needs and being you. Give yourself permission to take time out for you and put you back on your to-do list. You will be more effective and happier in your other roles.
8. Start putting yourself first.
It’s not selfish. You’re important and you deserve better. So once you’re back on that list, work on moving yourself further up. To look after others, you first have to look after yourself. The in-flight emergency procedure tells you to put on your own oxygen mask first before you help others with theirs.
9. Stop comparing yourself to others.
Just as others have no idea what’s going on in your life, you have no idea what’s really going on in theirs, so it serves no positive purpose to compare yourself and worry about what others are doing. You’re unique. You can only be you. Chances are they’re probably comparing themselves to you!
Because we have somewhat natural levels of each individual personality trait, pushing any one trait outside of its limits is uncomfortable.
We are creating tension by pushing ourselves to think in ways we don’t usually think, to act in ways we don’t usually act, and to do things we don’t usually do.
This may all be fine, as long as you stay active and too busy to slow down… but as soon as you do, your world can come crashing down on top of you.
Let’s bring it home, think of the statue as your own life. Some of us we are living under a mask, a clay vessel yet we are made of gold. Stop pretending, stop living a life that is not yours and we pretend for many reasons. Pretending like we got it all together yet we do not have it at all, pretending to be loved yet we are not, pretending to be someone you are not. Its more costly to live a life of pretense than just to live your life.
Just like the gold that was hidden under the statue, the gold inside you is waiting to be unleashed. Every human being is responsible for the gold that is in them to be revealed or not. Other people can help you see and realize but you have to walk the talk of removing the mask.
Remove that mask and live the life that God has designed you to live, a life of pure gold, a life of value
Stop Pretending and live your life of shinning like Gold. Remove the mask you have been living under and start enjoying your life, remember to always be the best version of your self
Ponder Points – for how long are you going to live in Pretense?
It is more expensive to live under pretense than to just live as you are.
If you stop pretending wouldn’t your life be better?
I f it is up to you then DO IT!!!
