Nowadays people have absconded from integrating with family and relatives due to various reasons and circumstances. Our world has become a disintegrated community full of people who have no compassion for one another and family has suffered the most. We may validate these situations because of civilization and new cultures being adopted by the youth however these tendencies have results and sometimes we do things blindly without seeing the bigger picture. Our generation needs to slow down a bit think things through and decide on how best we can harness the power of family and relatives.
Ethically
One may claim to be neutral when it comes to religion and culture and I totally respect that, however the rule of ethics states that anything that survives on planet earth is dependent to other things for its survival in simple terms “no man is an island of himself”. We depend on one another especially in times of joy and sorrow, nature has a way of connecting us so that we harness the relationships we have naturally and artificially. Ethically family is also important to humanity and we ought to honor and respect it.
Culturally
As Africans we believe in the Ubuntu idealism, we believe that we are because you are and we value each human being. We believe in the family we have as a gift from the most high. Our families in an African setup we have the immediate family and the extended family (relatives) and we honor that as Africans hence we believe family should be valued and respected.
Biblically
God created Adam and he saw it fit and made sure that Adam had accompaniment in form of Eve. That is the first family that we see in the Bible, the Bible has so many families that were mentioned and most importantly we have the family of Jesus. God as he is the alpha and omega he came here on earth in form of his son Jesus Christ. He didn’t come in form of chariots, motorcades and flashy arrival he came through a family. Joseph and Mary with their son Jesus made the family hence signifying that family is very important.
Key 5 Lessons To Draw From This Message
Blood is thicker than water
We uphold friendships more than family ties we uphold and value outside relations more than our families. When all is said and done family is all we got. You may have 1000 friends and they may seem to like you now however be that as it may there are certain things in life which requires you to be with your family not your friends. On your funeral, wedding and the most important days in life the first people who will be required to be present will be none other than your relatives and family not friends and social media fans. When you sacrifice your family relations whilst pleasing strangers and other people on social media always know that one day you will need that family you ignore and abuse.
No matter how primitive or backward there are your family will always be your family
You may have acquired vast wealth, you may have great achievements and you may have great educational qualifications that are way above your family and relatives. All other things may give you status and recognition but your family gives you identity as an individual hence nothing on earth gives you identity more than family. A person without an identity is just like a piece of paper being tossed around with wind so value that family and value your relatives. There are several rich men who were very extravagant, they were several high-class individuals who were blindfolded by fame, wealth and social status. Life has a way of humbling you and when that happened they went back to their families to find refuge and sympathy because their friends and associates were just there for them because they were transactional relationships however family relations go beyond transactions it is blood, DNA and lineage at play.
Your decision will catch up with you in the long run
If you are fortunate enough one day you will be 80 something years and most of your generation will not reach that age. Everyone the grandkids and your children will be looking up to you as a leader of the family and you will be clueless because you did not learn about family in your youth days. What you do today is what you will be so learn about family its values and importance because one day you will be a leader of the family and if you prepare it won’t be difficult for you. They will ask for direction and information regards to your family background and traditions and you will look clueless in front of young generations who will be looking at you as their elder. Imagine that scenario!!!!!
Don’t decide for your kids because you have bad experience with family
In most cases our decisions towards family are influenced by the experiences we have as individuals with family. You may be isolated or you may have certain issues with your family members which makes you feel that you can’t integrate with the family. Your decisions to stay away from the family has big impacts on your children because they will grow up isolated because you have already parted ways with the family same with your grandkids. That phenomenon will continue until your grand grandchildren will become isolated from their lineage until they become confused with their identity hence this isolation from family may seem fun for now however you are already making decisions that has the ability to break a clan in the future.
Pride is poison to humanity
If there anything I can blame for such behaviors nothing comes top of pride. The notion of undermining other family members is what makes the young people abscond from family issues. Sometimes the belief of freedom and doing whatever I want with my life is the major reason why we are absconding from these family groupings. Surprisingly enough we are the most active in sports groups, other social groups and church groups. If we’re to integrate well with others let’s try by all means to remove this pride in us and accept one another with our falls and shortcomings because we depend on one another as humans.
This is message isn’t meant to judge you, it’s a message that is meant to instill and drill a line of thought that will inspire you to think through some of the decisions we make and some things we do subconsciously. Some people do not have family to learn on and they are desperately looking for other people to rely on and they wish they can have family and relatives whilst you take yours for granted.
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