“Are you listening to what I am saying?”. This has become the phrase of the day as people are desiring someone who can listen to them. This article serves to let us know and learn to appreciate what the power of listening entails and the gifts endowed.
Listening entails or refers to predisposing oneself to the other and allowing that person to change you. This means we let ourselves to be present wholly to oneself and the other so as to be active listeners and not letting distractions be in control.
The world today is looking for listeners and people are paying a huge sum of money just to let someone listen to them without solving problems. This brings an attention to say, “What is happening to me in listening to my family, friends and the community at large”.
According to Alison Doyle, active listening allows us to abandon the concept of self and others; it let us discover and know others deeply. As one person said, I quote, “when you meet someone be a dumb before being smart”, moreover, this allows you to be able to know and value the presence of someone and you can be able to listen to them without any hindrance.
The problem why we are not good listeners is that, we spend more time trying to solve problems when life is a mystery to be discovered. The moment we grasp these aspects, we will learn to listen without looking for solutions and discover the gifts each of us is endowed with.
If we reflect on our lives, each of us have a person who is always there to listen to us. Whenever we talk to them, we feel relieved and some form of healing is achieved which give reference to the topic that listening has the power of healing oneself and the other.
In addition, the reason why we are poor listeners is because when one needs our attention, we are either looking for answers or finding the problem which becomes an obstacle to listen. The moment we discover this, we shall realize there is more than what we thought we knew. Moreover, scripture advices us to listen to his voice (Det4 vs 29-31).
If we learn to listen actively, we will discover that, with every listening aspect there is an opportunity; this opportunity can be knowing ourselves better, knowing others and learn to understand without giving answers.
Today most relationships, families and communities are breaking up because we do not listen to each other. The world needs listeners to help each other discover the mystery life holds for us and being a good listener starts with you and me; let us learn to embrace the aspect of listening in our lives with the objective of building greater relationships with ourselves, others and mostly God.
Lastly, I would pose some statements for reflection; If all people were active listeners, where would our family and community at large be in terms of growth and development in all sectors? What are you doing to embrace and support active listening in your life and the people around you?
Trevor Virima SC.