Motivational Monday’s with MandyRue
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How many times have you said to yourself “that’s too much for me, it cannot possibly be for me!” Maybe someone had bought you designer clothes, threw a party for you, or taken you out to an expensive restaurant for lunch. At a party, have you always rushed to the dishes figuring that this was the best way you could help? Has it always been humility which moved you to do such deeds or is that you just don’t regard yourself highly enough to also befit nothing but the best? It’s so unfortunate that at times we tend to fall into the habit of becoming our own worst enemies. We tolerate being taken advantage of, treated abusively, we have friends and acquaintances who demand so much but give so little and the worst part is we put up with it all. Maybe at times you even ask yourself why your “friends” don’t seem to value you so much. This week’s motivational article will be frank with you. No one is going to value you if you don’t value yourself! Have standards!
If you want to be a better person, you have to start appreciating yourself. Tell yourself that you too deserve nothing but the best. Don’t settle for less. Many of us stay in toxic relationships because we say “its better than nothing” Because of that we continue being taken advantage of and we remain unhappy. Value yourself! Why settle for less? You deserve nothing but happiness too! Why settle for the lowest portion when you can also have the best! Make yourself a priority too.
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Having standards, good standards serve as protection. When you tell yourself that this is the level I will reach and won’t stoop any lower you are guaranteed your self-esteem remains in check fostering good relationships with others as well as better physical health. Refuse to settle for nothing but the best. Be more appreciative of the role you play in society. Always remember, you are also the source of other people’s happiness. You matter too!
Now many at times when people here of standards they believe it means do’s and don’ts, things they will not tolerate other people doing to them. But the secret is, standards start from within. Unless you can throw yourself a party, you won’t notice if others don’t throw you a party. If you are so stingy you cannot buy yourself a new dress or shirt once in a while it will certainly strike you odd if someone buys you new clothes. People can certainly see the way we treat ourselves and most of the time it’s the way they treat us in turn. If you don’t value yourself, it’s very hard for others to value you too!
Kids are very observant by nature. I stay in a high-density location and street football is the game of the day. Young boys used to come from all over the street to play at our house. Why? They had observed that of all the mothers in the street my mother would not shout at them for dirtying her yard. It seemed she did not mind her verandah and yard getting dirty, she would just clean it up after they play. To them, she didn’t value her verandah so they didn’t too. Funny right. Well, it was really because she had a love of kids at heart but the point is, people usually observe the way we treat ourselves and treat us like that.
When we value ourselves and have a healthy level of self-esteem people tend to treat us in a favorable manner or even better. When you show your capability of putting up with trash, don’t be offended when everyone treats you like a bin.
May this week’s article motivate you to start valuing yourself, and to keep doing so if that had already been your way of life. A word of caution, self-love is not to be confused with egotism or perfectionism.
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Having standards does not mean setting unrealistic boundaries. Valuing yourself means knowing what’s healthy and beneficial for you. Love yourself! You are worth more than gold. Have standards. For me, I say “I might stoop low, but I don’t stoop that low!”
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